My Independence
For the most part, I enjoy the enhanced freedom that comes with not being married to my ex-husband anymore. He was very controlling and critical. He demanded that all of my decisions be joint decision made with him. I was OK with that, except that he did not feel he needed to adhere to the same standards. The day he came home with a Dodge Charger and a brand new car loan taken against my personal, pre-marital credit union account is a good example. That was a surprise to me and one would assume that making a decision as large as buying anew car with a high price tag should be something you do as a couple.
The times I miss being married, though, are like now when I am trying to plan my daughter’s birthday trip. We went to Princesses and Pirates at Disney last year with my sister and my nephew. Gigi wants to do it again, but my sister informed me that her son does not want to go, because he resents having to spend any time doing Princess stuff. He wants to focus on the pirates. So, I can go alone with Gigi, but I have to be honest and admit that I cannot imagine navigating the crowds without another adult along. It’s an event that is supposed to focus on child-like fun, but the adults in the crowds can be pushy and rude. You would think it was a convention for truck drivers, or Raleigh accident lawyers, or disgruntled government workers.
Most of my friend’s kids are older, or boys. It’s one of those times I wish I had a partner to go along with. I suppose it is best, in the end, to just buck up and go alone with my daughter. That way she will be 100% guaranteed that she can visit any ride or meet any character she wants. She was quite compliant last year and while we rode Pirates of the Caribbean 4 times, she only got to meet two princesses.
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